Hello! I have been debating over whether or not to write a ‘Farewell 2017’ post because it always seems so cliche. However I really DO have a lot of lessons learned this year and I think they might be useful to other people so watch as I get all cliche on you.
- Social Media is REALITY
This year I have been spending a LOT of time on social media as part of my job. I have watched as people’s social media presence has grown and developed into something beautiful and positive and warm. They have welcomed differences of opinion as chances to help each other to grow and expand any close mindedness on either side and new friendships have been cultivated that have surpassed the realms of the interwebs….
I have also watched people become bitter antagonistic trolls of anything and anyone they don’t agree with or understand. I know that social media is a place to express yourself. I do it multiple times a day. Here’s the thing, if you wouldn’t have the balls to approach a person in real life and say it to their face, don’t do it on social media. Would you actively seek out people in real life with a differing opinion and then belittle them and make them feel stupid for posting a comment online about a reality TV show? It’s beyond disappointing and it doesn’t say very much about where we’re headed on a social level if all of our differences of opinion are dealt with by using emojis and memes….
Retweeting something that someone else has said does not make you an activist. Slagging someone off for causing hurt or harm to others does NOT make you a better person than the person you are degrading, it makes you the SAME as them. Worse than that, slagging a group of people off, whose lifestyle you don’t agree with yet has done ZERO harm to you, makes you Donald Trump. You can’t change the world with one tweet, especially not a negative one, it makes you look petty and pathetic. It’s the 2017 equivalent of throwing your toys out of the pram.
For 2018 – post positively. If you must seek someone out, make it someone who you admire and tell them that you admire them and why. Pay it forward instead of dragging it backwards
2. Social Media is POWERFUL
At the beginning of the year I was asked by one of my dearest friends to help her set up and run social media accounts for a charitable activist group that she had been thinking about starting for a while. Of course I said yes and I am delighted to say that we have grown a really strong following online, not only that, we have held 2 really successful events this year and have made cash money for groups and projects that have lost their funding.
Getting involved in this has definitely given me a good focus for the year and has shown me that if used in the right way, social media can most definitely make a difference. We’ll be a whole year old in January 2018 and we have more plans afoot to keep growing and providing assistance for those who need it most. Slide in my DM’s for more info 🙂
3. Meditation is key
Okay so I have lost count of the amount of people who have told me that they really think I would benefit from meditation. I also really struggle when I have to tell people they were right and I was wrong, but hey, I WAS WRONG. I believed that I was too busy to meditate. Too busy to take time for myself. Yet I would waste SO MUCH TIME watching 13 minute YouTube videos on cat fails. I have used the Headspace app everyday for 60 days now and I can really feel the benefits. I’m looking forward to taking this into 2018 and maybe branching out into other apps, podcasts etc
If you are toying with the idea of getting started I promise you won’t regret it. It’s literally only 10 minutes out of your entire day. Plus, it’s a little bit of you time that we all deserve, let me know if you try it out or if you are using any other apps that you think are good!
4. Toxicville – Population 2
Over the past couple of years, I have shed some friends that were toxic for me. My life has improved ten fold because of it and I don’t regret a single thing. The only thing is, I am now HYPER AWARE of when I am being treated like a mug. If the only time someone contacts you is when they are having a hard time and need you to console them, then you need to not always be available. Friendships are NOT based on one person being the damsel in distress and the other person ALWAYS being the rescuer. These are unhealthy relationships and in time the rescuer will need a bit of rescuing but the damsel will be out there living their best life……. until they aren’t.
I remember when I was living in Toxicville and was absolutely IN BITS and I text to tell my friend and the response I got was along the lines of, ‘well, that’s your journey, could you get me this book from Amazon?’ I can’t tell you how many times I had to get kicked in the actual face before I realised that I was the only one to make it stop, which I eventually did. Best decision of my life. Talk it through with your person, maybe it has been an oversight and they will work on correcting that. Don’t settle in 2018
5. Make a 5 Phase Plan
If you have things you want to achieve in 2018, make yourself a 5 phase plan (a la Uncle Jim in Haters Back Off). Massive goals seem much more achievable if you break them into smaller steps. I’m currently in the process of working through my own 5 phase plan and so far it’s going well. There’s going to be more about that in 2018
6. Save money
This year I didn’t have a resolution as such. I did start trying to put away some money. I read online somewhere that if you put away 1p on 1st January, 2p on 2nd January and continue like that all year, you can save quite a bit of money for Christmas presents etc. Today I put away my final £3.65 and tomorrow I will go back to 1p in the jar. This money paid for my MOT, my car tax and my Christmas presents as well as helping me out of a couple of financial holes. I couldn’t recommend this highly enough. Get you a jar and drop those pennies in!!
THAT’S ALL, FOLKS!
There you have it, those are the main points I have taken from 2017 and will carry with me into 2018. What have you learned about this year that has changed your life and your outlook? Let me know in the comments!! Happy 2018, see you on the other side….